I think that labels such as attachment styles are a curse disguised as a blessing allowing people to identify with a group and know that they are not alone but by identifying with that group of label they have trapped themselves into a box within their head and they become a self fulfilling prophecy acting in the way they have already decided they must, because without these ‘mind forged manacles’ I believe we wouldn’t feel as bound in place and would find changing and shifting as a person much easier
If I didn't know better, I'd think I was the girl K spoke of. It really is difficult to communicate and I don't know why. Like you said, "Either this is simply how she is, and there’s nothing to be done. Or, this is how she is with K, and, if someone else arises, she will have the power to overcome her brain— power that her relationship with K did not provide.
I chose to believe in the second option because it meant that I chose hope."
I'd like to think that there's hope that I'd overcome.
thanks for sharing this. I appreciate it. I really do like to think that there's hope for these things. even if it's a bit tragic that I don't have much anecdotal evidence to support that belief
I think that labels such as attachment styles are a curse disguised as a blessing allowing people to identify with a group and know that they are not alone but by identifying with that group of label they have trapped themselves into a box within their head and they become a self fulfilling prophecy acting in the way they have already decided they must, because without these ‘mind forged manacles’ I believe we wouldn’t feel as bound in place and would find changing and shifting as a person much easier
sometimes I worry that this very well might be true
If I didn't know better, I'd think I was the girl K spoke of. It really is difficult to communicate and I don't know why. Like you said, "Either this is simply how she is, and there’s nothing to be done. Or, this is how she is with K, and, if someone else arises, she will have the power to overcome her brain— power that her relationship with K did not provide.
I chose to believe in the second option because it meant that I chose hope."
I'd like to think that there's hope that I'd overcome.
thanks for sharing this. I appreciate it. I really do like to think that there's hope for these things. even if it's a bit tragic that I don't have much anecdotal evidence to support that belief
Read this while procrastinating texting someone back lol
Really liked reading this!!! (also, I would looove to hear your thoughts on the therapy bit that you mentioned)
So she didn’t like k enough of or this new person somehow has a certain calm? Quite confused need answer